They had their first male-on-male experiences with each other, with me. They drew the conclusion that they weren’t romantically interested in each other – just close friends – liked to fool around. We became involved in a sexual relationship together, the three of us. We all became very close and attempted a Vee formation type relationship, with the two of them being more involved with me than they were with each other.
The second partner, Boy 2, was very comfortable, and still is, with the concept of polyamory. Overtime, the first partner I was involved with, Boy 1, realized that this type of relationship really wasn’t for him. Despite how hard myself and Boy 2 tried, he couldn’t help but feel insecure and jealous. So, we ended our relationship and I am now singularly involved with Boy 2.
Yes, this must all sound very confusing to monogamous Sex Tube
people, but, I can assure you that it was a very important and beautiful bond that the three of us had.
My former partner, Boy 1, and I are currently working on how to stay friends post-relationship. We really do care about each other, and sometimes that’s how relationships work.
I don’t think someone needs to be minused from your life just because the relationship you tried to have didn’t work out. A different, equally valuable relationships can come out of that attempt.
SUL: So, what can you gain and what have you gained from these polyamorous relationships that you couldn’t gain with monogamy?
Well, I feel with Polyamory, you are starting off your relationships by throwing one of the biggest fears in monogamy out the window, which is losing your partner to someone else. When that option is taken off the table, you really don’t have anything else to lose and all that you have to gain is the bond that you share.
I am able to very close and very comfortable Hot Adult
with a lot of people because they know that I am there unconditionally for them whether or not they’re with someone else. Like, you know, I’m not going to stop calling someone because they have a girlfriend.
It’s really not about sex. It’s really about love, is the thing. Love is not a commodity. It’s not something that you give less to one person because you’re giving it to another person. It is infinite.
When you have that with people, you build a community and a family outside of your traditional family and community. That is a support group of people that care about you regardless of your relationship to them at that moment.
•Polyamory Weekly Podcast pretty much covers everything that you could think of and gives a lot of information and advice
•Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association
•VanPoly Group you can check out the site and their links. Also join their Yahoo group.
•The younger crowd should look on Facebook for VanPoly 101
If you are interested in marching with VanPoly in the Pride Parade in Vancouver on Sunday, July 31st, meet at Thurlow and Burrard by 11:15a.m.